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Having heard Kae, from a distance, at Greenbelt and being honest not enjoyed the experience I then brought this in the book tent as there was clearly something going on that I had totally missed.
It is a poetic book, richly written, dense in a luxurious way.
From it just a few points that touched me
They quote Erving Goffman who suggests that all social interaction is make-believe, we are all always playing a role – and society gets on find it you stick to a defined role - “Nobody interrupting the drama, everybody comfortable in their role in the exchange.” and here we can see why society finds non-binary identities a challenge – it is a rejection of neat boxes and that is disruptive. It is a failing of society that it is too lazy to engage with the person and want to stick with just identity-kit roles.
“But sometimes I need something radical to snap me out of the lonely daze. Something ancient and more human than everything we’ve built to keep us safe and quiet and nice and routine; all the convenient distractions of goal-orientated life, the numbness that holds up the curtain, the covering that takes the edge off the violence of our distant and not so distance past.” Which is for me part of the reason why we need to keep liturgy “weird” - for it to be other from the normal modes of interaction – to be a place in which our minds can shift out of ourselves.
“No one really cares about what you said or how you said it. They are all too busy agonising over what they said or how they said it. Even if they’re online ripping the shit out of you for what you said or how you said it, it’s really themselves they’re angry at and besides, other people’s opinions do not define you.”